Surrender to Love

As we tend to our wounds, scrubbing away old scars and acknowledging the pain within, we might unknowingly leave scratches on the innocent, those untouched by our past traumas and childhood turbulence. In a few years, our actions might inflict scars and cause pain to them, mirroring the cycle of hurt we've endured. We risk becoming replicas of those who once hurt us, extending the cycle of suffering for those around us.

We must heal from the past without creating new victims in the process. The timing and manner of our journey toward reconciliation should be mindful of those we might hurt. Our past should not generate more suffering; we must shield our loved ones from the pain we've endured. These are our experiences, not theirs. If we fail in this, those who trusted us will feel the pain without gaining the lessons, bearing the burden of experiences that aren't their own.

When overwhelmed by old painful memories, we lose sight of the beautiful souls around us. We become distracted by the static of dead time, allowing opportunities to create new, joyful memories to slip away. It's a tragic waste of time and a precious waste of life.

I am present, fully here, in this moment.

I am not the once oppressed daughter.

I am not the sister who was once despised.

I am not the girl who was once disregarded.

I am not the once invisible human.

I am here, now and here.

Through me, I am the mother who has raised great, loving souls. I am the woman who has broken the cycle of generational emotional abuse.

If there is one valuable lesson I have learned in life, it is to love without expectations, starting with ourselves. Love is the only remedy for stubborn old wounds and a natural healer for painful memories. Through love, we allow our souls to rest and learn, embracing a path of genuine healing and growth.

The best time to start our healing journey is when we forgive ourselves and love who we are unconditionally. Healing flows naturally and effortlessly from this place of self-acceptance and compassion. When we fully embrace ourselves, we open the door to recovery and inner peace.

Dana Obeid