Free Them

The gift of giving birth does not mean it entitles parents to control their children. On the contrary, parents should accept their rights with maturity and wisdom.

Parenting is the most sacred role any human might get, the part that can create another human to progress rather than build an entity and then destroy.

Parents have the power of the gods, and the biggest challenge is to restrain this power rather than control their kids.

Only kids with free spirits can evolve, while those under their parents’ control can only grow to be sad imposters of their fathers and mothers.

What a huge loss when parents deter their children from seeing the world from their own eyes; what a wrong decision when they block the world from knowing how life could be from these children’s perception.
What a dull picture if kids only draw what their parents see instead of pumping new colors into an old painting.

It is a considerable deprivation of many great opportunities if these children are hindered from choosing a life of their own free will.

When you look at the eyes of free children, you can see hope, but in the eyes of deprived ones, only death, no lights, only walls.

If you want your children to be leaders, follow them, make sure you are there for them, give them a hand if they fall and need to pick up, provide them with a shoulder when they are sad and need to rest, and show them love in their success and failure if you need your children to make you happy, be them but never ask them to be you, let them lead and you follow.

So, go along with your children; wherever they take you, you will be there with them, they will be there for you.

Anything else would be a dead end.

In his book “The Prophet,” Khalil Gibran, a Lebanese – American poet, writer, and artist, said:
“Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you.
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.”

Dana Obeid